Shane – I have had enough… You are fired!

Let me start this post by stating:
I love my husband,
I trust my husband,
And I respect my husband.

Somewhere along the way, even though I know better, I sorta made Shane into a God.

When you don’t get a paycheck or quarterly review it is easy to look around in other places for acknowledgement and praise.

I think I subconsciously chose Shane because if I based my value on the response I get from my children I would be fired by breakfast.
For some reason I still won’t let my kids drink rootbeer with breakfast.
(This was literally the debate we had yesterday.)

There are and will be times in life when we will feel beat down, discouraged, and even filled with doubt that we are not doing this mom/wife thing well.

Those are not feelings from God, that is Satan.

Satan likes to attack us making us think that we have no self-worth or value.
Here are some of the ways Satan attacks me…

You can’t keep a clean house.
Satan.

You never get dressed up anymore.
Satan

Are you sure your kids are in enough extracurricular activities?
Satan

When was the last time you helped in the classroom?
Satan

You are not (doing/being/loving/fixing/cooking/cleaning) enough.
Satan

Sometimes, when the enemy is screaming these things at me, I subliminally make Shane responsible for the value I hold… I have set him up to fail.
It is not fair to put him in the place of the God of the universe.
He is not equipped for that fight.
(He works out and all, but you know…)

In all fairness, Shane usually does this value thing quite well.
He is quick to give a compliment and make me feel important.

However, I think that is part of the problem…
If you have a husband who is good at providing you with value you are less likely to turn to God for it.

But what about when god-Shane is having a human-Shane day?
What about when he doesn’t make me feel valued?
What about when he hurts my feelings?
(Yes ladies, even Mr.Awesome hurts feelings sometimes.)

If I am finding all my worth in Shane I am going to be sadly disappointed.
#keepingitreal

Lord knows, Shane has got his own battles to fight… he doesn’t have the capacity to be solely responsible for my self-worth.
That’s a tall God-sized order.
(not like the Starbucks kind… who decided the small should be called tall, anyway?)

Hear me when I say this…
If you look anywhere other than to God, your view of your own value is in grave danger of being distorted.

A mamas and as Christians we need reminders of how God sees all of us with tremendous value.

Here are a few truth nuggets for you today…
Don’t skim them!
Read them.
I mean it.
Maybe even twice.

Matthew 10:29-31 – Are not two sparrows sold for a penny? And not one of them will fall to the ground apart from your Father. But even the hairs of your head are all numbered. Fear not, therefore; you are of more value than many sparrows.

Isaiah 43:4 – Because you are precious in my eyes, and honored, and I love you, I give men in return for you, peoples in exchange for your life.

Isaiah 49:15-16 – Can a woman forget her nursing child, that she should have no compassion on the son of her womb? Even these may forget, yet I will not forget you. Behold, I have engraved you on the palms of my hands; your walls are continually before me.

Psalm 139:13-14 – For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.

And last but not least…
this is really one of my favorite verses…
Proverbs 31:25 is telling about a virtuous woman and says “She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come.”

Today I am going to fire Shane, once and for all.
He is not responsible for my worth.
My value comes from God alone.

So ladies… I challenge you to fire your husband today and put God back in His rightful place.

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6 thoughts on “Shane – I have had enough… You are fired!

  1. So powerful Christen! Satan uses this one in full force, especially on us mamas. The guilt, the questions, the inadequacy, and of course that human need to know we are doing a good job! Who else do we encounter on a daily basis but our spouses?…what a tall order indeed!
    The trap is real and it’s deep. I’ve learned this lesson in a huge way…and it wasn’t pretty. God wants us for himself, not in a selfish way, but in an all-consuming loving way! And it’s the most full-filling, satisfying love we as humans can experience. When we allow his perfect love to reach our souls, we will never be thirsty again 🙂
    Preach it sister!!!