If I hear Someone Say This One More Time… I Might Punch Them!

Alright ya’ll… I am a little fired up and a lot passionate about this one.

I regularly hear woman say that they are “single-momming it” when their husband is on travel.

NO YOU ARE NOT!

I would like to take a few frustrated moments to enlighten you on my firm stance.

First… do you know what it is like to be a single mom? Have you ever been a single mom, like for real?

No? Well then listen up…

Here are a few adjectives that come to mind about my time spent as a single mom…

Lonely

Challenging

Overwhelming

I believe that being a mom is one of the most challenging jobs in the world… but being a single mom is crazy difficult.

In so many cases those women are the mom and the dad. They are the provider, the disciplinarian, the cuddler, the cook, the taxi driver, the homework helper, and the answerer of all questions.

(I know it’s not like that for everyone. I know some people have great working relationships with the other parent. That wasn’t the case for me. So I will continue to speak only what I know.)

So when you say you are “single-momming it” this week while your husband is gone there is literally a little twitch that it causes in me.

While your husband is gone…

Do you feel lonely? Yes. But you have someone who calls to tell you goodnight, he loves you and misses you.

Is it challenging? Yes. But you know that he will be back. The single mom doesn’t know if he will ever come in to her life. Your week… is her reality.

Is it overwhelming? Yes. Anytime you change what you are comfortable in it can be a bit overwhelming. (Suck it up buttercup. Again… your week = her reality.)

A few more questions:

While your husband is gone…

Are you safely sheltered in your home?

Is he providing the income or at least some of the income for your family?

Do your kids have a father figure in their life?

To the single mommas out there… I see you. My heart hurts for you. I remember and it brings me to tears to type these words. I literally have a lump in my throat as I recall all the emotions that season of my life was entwined with.

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Single mommas… please remember that no matter how lonely you feel… you are never alone.

Hebrews 13:5 says that God will never leave you nor forsake you.

Lean in to God. Tell him your fears, anxieties, and concerns. He is listening and He loves you.

For the other mommas out there. Please don’t use the single mom phrase anymore. It’s really not something to joke about. It’s a painful struggle. I know the week feels super long while your husband is gone, Shane travels all the time. I get it.

But instead… on those weeks when your husband is on travel will you thank God for your life? Your husband? All your blessings?

Will you find a way to love on the single moms in your community? They are not hard to find.

They might be a little resistant to help. (I was a bit too prideful at times for my own good.) But help them and love on them anyway. And single-moms- allow others to love on you.

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Fellow mommas — Will you join in praying for the single moms?

Single Mommas – I vow to pray for you more. I pray you will have peace in your circumstances, joy in the tough day-to-day things, and that your kids will see how much you love them.

We are all on the same team… Team Mom! We need to band together, help one another and pray for one another.

Are you in?

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8 thoughts on “If I hear Someone Say This One More Time… I Might Punch Them!

  1. Beautiful. This brought tears to my eyes. I don’t know how single mom’s do it. I have the upmost respect for them. And I will never use the term “single momming it” 🙂

  2. My favorite is when my friends look at me and say, “you need more help.” And they don’t mean that they are going to help me. They mean I need to hire more people, like they do! Needless to say, this is NOT remotely a possibility for single-mom-me. So I suck it up, put my head down, and work even harder. It’s a real challenge because no one really understands unless they’ve walked this path themselves. Thank you for this post.

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  4. Such powerful words Christen! Thank you for the wonderful reminder that we need to pray for single moms who are walking this difficult path. I was raised by a single mom & witnessed her daily struggles. May my heart never stop being grateful that God has given me a supportive spouse to walk through life with!