FaKebook – The Not So Perfect Couple

A quick recap/definition of FaKebook Friday:

On FaKebook Friday I give an example of a FaKebook vs a Real Life version of the same story, essentially mocking the way we all have a tendency to put a spin on the things we share on Facebook.

FaKebook is the version of the story that you want everyone to see or know and Real Life is the version that you don’t really share for whatever reason.

Here goes…

{FaKebook Version}


Date Night with My Man!

{Real Life Version}

We fight.
Sometimes we fight BIG…

I realized that maybe I was guilty of my own FaKebook crime after our date night post this week…

There were some sweet comments on the picture, one even said that we light up when we are together.

It got me to thinking… sometimes we really light each other up. (keep it clean)
However, at those times the light looks more like seeing red than a sweet date night glow.

We are not perfect…We are far from it really and I am trying my darndest to keep it real on this blog while still respecting the people in my stories/home.

In an attempt to keep it real I have found myself in a bit of a conundrum…

1- we don’t take pictures when we fight (Although, I am sure they would be entertaining later and oh man, can you imagine trying to stop for a selfie mid fight?)

2- I don’t believe you should air out your dirty laundry on Facebook (We have all seen someone do it. It’s awkward and it makes everyone feel uncomfortable. Just don’t do it!)

3- I honor and respect my man/marriage (like, A LOT)

Now that you can understand my keeping it real struggle… here is my perfect example:




This was the post from Shane’s Christmas party this year.

I even captioned it like this:

Hubby’s Christmas party here we come!!
#datenight #nokids #woohoo #ballaerospace


We were so excited to get out and have a night off.

But let me tell you… about 4 hours after the photo was taken of this darling couple we went to bed angry and barely speaking to one another.

It was a stupid fight, as most are…
Maybe it was too much hype put on the night,
maybe we were both exhausted from the week,
or maybe it was the terribly impractical shoes I wore.

Regardless… not our finest night.

It would not be appropriate to go back and explain all the gory details of how our one night out died a slow, bloody, miserable death but here is what I can and will tell you about the most perfect average couple in all the photos:

– Sometimes we fight… we fight about money, parenting, chores, the color of the sky, flavor of coffee, you name it… we have argued about it. (one time we even got in a fight over the equal/not so equal distribution of guacamole at a mexican restaurant)

– Sometimes we don’t show each other enough love and respect (it’s a vicious cycle, read the book… Love and Respect by Emerson Eggerichs)

– Sometimes we use words that tear down instead of build up (even though we have a rule against this)

– Sometimes we are selfish (IE… humans)

– Sometimes we raise our voice (don’t judge)

– Sometimes we say unkind things (sometimes we can keep them in our heads… but sometimes they just come out)

– Sometimes we push each others buttons (because we know where to find them)

– Sometimes our biggest struggle is that we are a lot alike in some bad ways.
We are both strong-willed/type A/leaders who have a common goal but see very different ways of getting there.
(Don’t even ask about our first year of marriage. It is amazing we both made it out alive.)

But I will let you in on my favorite secret to marriage… You are going to fight, you are going to disagree, you are not always going to get along…

But the bottom line… Shane is the one worth fighting for.


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2 thoughts on “FaKebook – The Not So Perfect Couple

  1. If you find the person whom you know “you are supposed to fight for” your whole life, it makes even the worst of fights, the hurtful of comments, and the sleepless nights-a place where beauty comes from ashes. There is something about a bad fight that God uses to take a marriage to a deeper place of safety, love and understanding. God bless your marriage beyond your wildest imagination! 🙂

  2. The bad times are there to make us appreciate the wonderful times which come up way more often, thank goodness! Stay tenacious about your marriage because it is worth fighting for. You are both lucky to have found each other.