Facebook Friday — Family Gift Exchange


All these lovely posts about perfect family adventures and Pinterest worthy meals make me wonder about the story behind them.  You know, the version of the story we don’t broadcast on the WWW.

So I came up with the concept of sharing some of our behind the post dramas and I call it FaKebook.

FaKebook is the version of the story that you want everyone to see or know and Real Life is the version of the same story that you don’t really share for whatever reason…

Here goes…

[FaKebook Version]

We drew names for the family gift exchange tonight!


[Real Life Version]

Doesn’t this post make it look like I am the most clever mom, with the sweetest family, and post-worthy ideas?

The truth is… I don’t want my kids to grow up to be greedy little monsters, this is simply an attempt at combatting such a thing. We will still stuff shoe boxes, donate a few toys, and fill a grocery bag, but blessing their sib has already seemed to hit them a little harder than any of the previously mentioned opportunities.

Here are some Real Life facts about such a FaKebook post…

  • The idea was not my own I got it from the neighbors across the street who also have 4 kids.
    (They don’t include the parents, but I like presents, so…)

    • FaKebook posts are often filled with clever and unique ideas that make it look like it was an original idea… but come on, we all surf Pinterest. Give credit where credit is due.
  • The kids were all about the gift exchange until we told them they had to spend their own money…
    dun dun duuuuuun
    There was a bit of panic in their eyes…
  • I kindly explained we would help them earn the money.
    Still more panic…
    earning = extra chores
  • There was an attempted boycott/rule bending…
    “What if we don’t get anything for our person?”
    “What if we find something for less that $10?”
  • James, my preschooler, has recently learned what his name looks like and was miffed that he couldn’t have the paper with his own name on it.
    (Terrible 3s is no joke.)

    • While we are on the terrible 3s topic… can I just ask you to take a moment of silence for the fact that next week I will have a 2 and 3 year old in this house! Terrible 2s and terrible 3s all at the same time. What were we thinking?? We weren’t, obviously.
  • Shane plays along with my crazy ideas… but look at his face.
    His thought bubble should read,
    “My wife is nuts,
    I just want to put the baby monster to bed,
    take the picture already,
    this is just causing drama,
    hurry up,
    that’s good enough, right?”

    • Yes, Shane… I mean who cares that it looks like James is getting drunk off that apple.
      (The apple that he was only eating because he was trying to avoid going to bed)
      It’s hard to fit 6 people in a selfie… ok? And the kids are learning sacrificial giving and making special memories. Work with me here!

In the end, the children with the capacity to understand why we were drawing names and why we couldn’t have our own names, seemed pretty excited about the whole thing and started talking about what they were going to buy for their person.

Wish me luck… I hope this works!


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2 thoughts on “Facebook Friday — Family Gift Exchange

  1. Honey I love all our post and think you have a good thing going by drawing names. We did it one time and low and behold it was a disaster. No one like what their brother gave. LOL Anyway I think it is neat. Would you just answer me one question? When do mom and dads, Nana and Papa’s simply say let’s don’t give gifts this year and see how that works. To be truthful, we tried that one year and it didn’t work either. When it came to the time I for one thought “I just can’t do this”. So did my boys. Good luck on your adventure and know I am praying for your success. Love your Fakebook. LY too

  2. This post also resonates with me at the moment. Our own family is small, just me, my husband and stepson (although I recently discovered after trying for over a year we’ll be adding in the summer!) so we don’t do this type of exchange ourselves. My family has been doing family/couples gifts recently and we have done the same with one of my inlaws. We’ve all enjoyed focusing on what a family can do together like museum passes, movie tickets, and board games. This year my husband’s sister decided unilaterally we adults would do Secret Santa. I don’t mind Secret Santa but I do mind her premise that the children are excluded because they should be “spoiled.” This is not keeping with the spirit and our 12 year old, who is loving and kind already but has long been an only, needs to learn how to give and not just receive. I hope more people respond and share because I would love to hear other alternatives.