A new year, a fresh start, and a chance to change a few things.
It’s that season where we are making resolutions, setting goals and determining that this coming year will be different.
Maybe you have made resolutions in the past, maybe you have kept them or maybe not.
Maybe you are to the point where making resolutions just seems like you are setting yourself up for failure.
How many years in a row are you going to try to lose that baby weight?
(It doesn’t matter that the “baby” is 6 now, it is still baby weight, right?)
Instead of setting ourselves up for failure by vowing to become a gym rat, go on an all juice diet, or being the perfect parent… What if we resolved to make some small tweaks?
The concept is lots of small adjustments instead of a couple of giant ones.
Here are some of the ideas I have come up with…
- God First
- My dad always told us that if we are too busy for God, we are just plain old too busy. For me, this means my morning quiet time. It means going to bed a litter earlier so I can sneak down the stair for some quiet time for the chaos starts. God first means time in prayer, time in the bible, and time to listen. This is something I have to be intentional about.
- Flirt With Your Husband
- You might feel weird at first if it’s been a while since you left him a love note or kissed him like you meant it, but our men need to feel wanted. It is crucial to their well-being… so grab some flesh, steal a kiss, and put on some lingerie.
- Spend More Time On The Floor And Outside With My Kids
- I want my kids to remember a mom that played with them. I don’t to be the housekeeper/chef/chauffeur in the background of their childhood memories. The messes will always be there and the laundry will never be caught up. I want to be there, like really be there… making play-doh food, building block castles, and digging for worms, be there.
- Put The Phone Down
- Stemming from the be there concept… When I am in mom mode I want to put my phone down more often. In 20 years when the kids are grown and gone it’s not going to matter what all my friends on Facebook were doing, but I will treasure the memories of watching my kids play in the bath or chatting with them over lunch.
- Focus More On Contentment And Gratitude
- Speaking of Facebook… we can get so wrapped up in keeping up with the Jones’ that we forget how crazy blessed we really are. I am going to let you in on a secret… people only post on social media the things they want you to know. Yes, her husband might have just bought her an expensive new purse, but it’s funny how she didn’t mention dragging it to the parent teacher conference about little Johnny’s classroom behavior.
- Exercise The Mind
- There was a season where I realized I hadn’t read a book without pictures in months. Now I try to be intentional about using my brain at an adult level… reading, conversing, and learning. You can keep it simple… read a book, learn a new recipe, or go even further and learn a new skill like knitting or biking.
- Exercise The Body
- I didn’t even want to add this one to the list because it is so cliche but it is also very important. I think as moms we are really bad about making time for ourselves. Stop it! I can only speak for me, but after I workout I feel better about myself and find it way easier to be a better human.
- Be Better In My Relationships
- This season of life makes this one difficult, but I think I could be a better friend, daughter/daugher-in-law, sister/sister-in-law, and neighbor. I know I could send a text, or make a call, or be more intentional about keeping up with what is going on in my loved one’s lives. In order to be available for this, I can’t be over-booked, over-scheduled, and running around like a chicken with it’s head cut off, I have to be intentional and leave margin.
- Call Parent/Grandparents
- If you are lucky enough to have earthly parents and grandparents… call them. Want to go a step further? Many of the folks in this category don’t have smart phones/internet/social media… What if printed (yes, like a real tangible photo) a few pictures and mailed them (yes, like with a stamp and everything) to our sweet computer illiterate loved ones?
My goals are usually pretty similar each year… I am always trying to be a better version of me.
What about you?
Do you make resolutions?
What do you think about my list?
Will you share your list with me?
I think we could really inspire one another.
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